I dated two guys simultaneously for a few months, because I wasn't sure whom to be with. They were both nice, kind, fun to be with and interesting, so I didn't mind going out with them both, until they found out by chance. I hadn't actually said anything to either of them about going out with them both, so they assumed I was stringing them along. I told them that this was unfair because I was not actually in a relationship with either of them, and was therefore entitled to date as many people as I chose to, but they have accused me of some pretty nasty things and neither of them wants to go out with me anymore. I think this is petty behaviour and I would have been glad to have them both out of my life, except for the fact that I genuinely enjoyed hanging out with them. Should I swallow my pride and apologise to them both just to go out with them again?
As a single person, you are entitled to date as many people as you like, and kiss as many frogs as you need to, before you think you have found your prince. The two men you speak of sound insecure. If they have accused you of things you believe are untrue, and have been disrespectful to you, I'm not sure why you continue to harbour the belief that there are no other interesting men in the city. There are a lot of them, if you look hard enough. If you don't want to look, swallow your pride, call these guys individually, and put across your case, if they are willing to listen. The ball is essentially in your court.
My boyfriend threatened to assault me a week ago, after an argument. He has apologised a thousand times since then, but I'm afraid of him and want to end this. Am I being hasty?
No. Violence against someone, even if implied or threatened, is unforgivable.